I recently had a very interesting BDSM roleplay session here at The Manchester Chambers with a new subbie. The premise of the roleplay was that the current government had deemed those who have kink and BDSM related fantasies as ‘perverts’. In order to better society, they were ordered to see specially designated therapists for corporal punishment to try and cure them of their depraved proclivities.
The session was great fun (I especially love these kind of authoritarian roleplays) and after the session My sub and I began chatting about the overlap between therapy and BDSM, and how therapeutic play can be.
For many of My subs/slaves/personal friends and I am sure many of you blog readers, this may strike a chord. Admittedly for some people kink is just a bit of fun, but for others it can be an intense, basic need that has to be fulfilled. A psychological itch that feels incredibly freeing to scratch.
The film ‘Secretary’ beautifully captures this notion of how liberating BDSM can be when practised with a trusted partner. I don’t wish to ruin the story for you, and instead I urge you to go and watch it yourself… it is most certainly one of My favourite films.
Whether play serves simply to spice things up or to re-frame trauma as a positive experience, recent research seems to dispels the historical myth that BDSM participants and kinksters are ‘unstable deviants’… turns out that W/we tend to be much more mentally healthy than your average ‘nilla.
Personally I believe that many of My submissives receive something from their time with Me which goes beyond the physical realm and crosses over into the psychological, giving them a release that vanilla experiences don’t even touch upon, and with that I’ll leave you with this image…
Until next time,
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